Discipline

ENTRY 7

dis·ci·pline  

Noun The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.

Verb Train (someone) to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience. I have to admit they say that the "terrible 2's"  are considered the worst age, well I do not concur with that statment. The age of 7 is by far the most diffcult in the growing relationship between my son and I. I must say this has been the most trying year of being a dicplinary in my son's life. He is constantly testing boundires, he has his voice and knows how to use it, not in terms of yelling but talking back, second guessing, and challenging everything I say. I am honestly at a crossroads here, I don't want to hit my son in any form, he doesn't take mom's stern voice seriously, and taking things away doesn't effect him. I keep putting him in the cornor but this does nothing. I am told to find something that he loves the most and use this to his advantage. There is not much this kid really "loves" and nothing faxes him. I mean he loves food but im not about to starve him for punishment... I jsut don't know what to do really, these are the times where a 2 parent house hold would be bennificial to a childs development, when he doesn't take me "serious" thats when parent #2 comes in and reinforces what #1 partent instructed.

True Love

ENTRY 6

“What it's like to be a parent: It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love.” 
― Nicholas Sparks, The Wedding



My heart is swollen with love today, sometimes as a parent you ask yourself certain questions......

"Was I too hard on them?"

"Am I mean?"

"Am I teaching the right things?"

"Am I guiding them in the right direction?"

             Then  something happens to you, like it did me last night and all your doubts about your parenting, all your transgressions, all your hard work that you think goes unseen/ untold is completely and utterly  justified. It's amazing how much of an impact even an 8 year old person (because their people too) can have on your day, your attitude, your out look, even your life.

            I was on a outing with my best friend of 12 years (having mommy time) I did come home later then I thought. To my surprise this is what I found on a neatly made bed of mine and this amazing letter from my son. This completely made my heart full of such love for this little person. It reassured me that there is something right I'm doing in this grad scheme of parenting that I have going on in my life. This is a pure act of unconditional love, there was nothing expected out of this. It was  thought up completely on his very own, and he made mom's bed also a beautiful act of respect, and kindness. 

           My son made my day, well my week....made me feel so loved more love then I have ever felt from any other person. You see when you look into your child's eyes...the human being you created on your very own, there is this overwhelming sense of love, pride, sense of ownership, towards this person. You poses fear, hope, joy, laughter, frustration, strain, gladness, all at once. It seems as though there was never life before you created life yourself, and now you will for ever dedicate your very own life to help in guiding them to have the stability and foundation s to one day create life themselves and raise that person to the best of their knowledge and experiences. 

              In other words unconditional [ˌʌnkənˈdɪʃən^əl]

adj

1. without conditions or limitations; total unconditional surrender